Energy vampires and How to deal with them
We all have that one person in our life that you think Ahhh I can’t be doing with you today. The people who drain you. Who will suck the life out of you. And that’s because they do. Not on purpose. They’re not evil! But they do make you feel lousy. Now it’s pretty tough if that person is a loved one. And God help you if it’s your partner! Because what happens is: life, nature, energy, is always struggling to balance itself out. Opposites attract. The ebb and flow of the tide, osmosis in nature, good and bad, yin and yang. Vibrational energy is a fascinating topic and I’ll talk more in depth about it another time but for the time being:
Imagine you’re a big old smart phone wobbling through the world (Go on imagine it. It’ll make you laugh, especially if you’re in a busy place) Now you’ve had a busy day and you didn’t sleep well but you know life is good and you’re an optimistic person so your energy levels are usually rocking round the 80% mark. But your Bluetooth is on. And then you get to work and that dude who get’s on your nerves is in. S/he is a miserable sod and they are always complaining and bitching about something. Their car wouldn’t start, they moaned about loosing their keys for a whole week! And when you sit next to them, as the day wears on, you feel yourself feeling more and more wound up. Your energy levels start to drop and you get pissed off at little things that shouldn’t bother you but they really do. This is because when someone is radiating at a very low vibration they will naturally pull energy from a higher vibration person. Their Bluetooth is on too and they’re just all up in there taking whatever they need while you’ll left wonder wtf is going on.
Now most energetic vampires aren’t aware they’re doing it. EV’s are usually people who are going through a really rough time lately. Or have had a really, really bad childhood. They get stuck in their own pain and sorrow and don’t know how to pull themselves out of it because to them it’s their normal. They don’t know the world can be different. Poor things. HOWEVER ITS NOW 3 YEARS AFTER I WROTE THIS BLOG AND I DISCOVERED SOMETHING NEW ABOUT EVs!🤯 BUT CARRY ON READING AND I’LL TELL YOU ABOUT IT AT THE BOTTOM, COZ IT’LL MAKE MORE SENSE THEN🤔
Other people are quite happy in their misery. The ones who look forward to things going wrong so they have something to complain about. They’ve had a shit life and seem to be pissed off waiting to die. (Im thinking of grumpy pensioners here obviously) Now there are people who are aware they’re doing it but probably don’t realise why it makes them feel good. These people thrive on bringing other people down to their level because it bolsters them up. These are usually the toxic husband or wife who like to moan, kick off of critise, the boss at work who loves to bully you, the criminals and other unsavoury souls who thrive on other people pain. These are the people who will criticise you but pass it off with a smile like it’s a compliment. Watch out for the crafty ones, they can be charming one minute and a twat the next. Narcissist are definitely energetic vampires. The crafty ones are the ones who get you on a high before they bring you down.
Now sometimes we can’t avoid these people. They’re just in our lives as a partner or a neighbour or (worst of all) a boss. So the way your protect yourself is to ground yourself. It’s very easy and you can learn to do it HERE
But what you should do, is also remember that these people are the way they are because someone stole their light too. They will have been through bad times and probably had no one to help them. And yes we all go through bad times. But having worked with the public for 15 years and met literally hundreds of thousands of people in course of my career, I can say with a fair amount of confidence that there are three types of people.
1. There are those people who let their pain consume them. It’s those people who’s pain is so bad they can’t find a way out so it burns their goodness away. The alcoholics, the drug addicts, the people who end up rough sleepers or end up abusers themselves.
2. Those who take their pain go “My life sucks” and then do it again, and again and again. The people who move from one abusive relationship to the next. Who stay in a job no matter how much they hate it, no matter how bad it gets. These are the people who fail to see the lesson because they are scared of change because their brain is terrified of change even if its their comfort zone that is slowly killing them. So they repeat it over and over again because feeling something that is familiar is safer to them then stepping into the unknown. And it’s heart breaking to watch if you know someone like this.
3. Those who take their pain, inspect it, learn from it and move on. The high achievers, the ones who don’t quit. The ones who people go, “Well it’s ok for them, their life’s perfect. They’re dead lucky” They’re not. You just won’t know their down because they ain’t down for long. People like me who heal their own pain so they can help others heal theirs. They become teachers, therapists or that wonderful boss who makes you feel amazing. These are the high vibration people who willing share their energy.
So what to do about energetic vampires? Well first ground yourself the second you realise you’re dealing with one. (Learn this Here) And as they try to bring you down just wish a load of love on them. Pray (if your that way inclined) for them to find true love and happiness. Imagine a cloak of white light and mentally wrap it round them. Pull up a feeling of love or joy and wrap it round them. It won’t drain you but it will help them. There’s a little child living in all of us. Some of those children need more love then others. A mental hug if you like. As John Lennon said,
All you need is love.
PS: Obviously this post refers to people you may meet on a day to day basis. If you are living with an energetic vampire, especially if it’s an abusive relationship you can’t help them because of the energy draining vampires narcissistic personality you can send all the love you like at the fucker, but it won’t change a damn thing. Because it is down to them to learn to heal their own wounds. You cannot change other people, you can only ever change yourself.
And while I can help you change your world, dealing with problem relationships isn’t my zone of genius. But there are other people out there who can help just googele support groups in your area or on facebook.
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UPDATE
So since I orginaly wrote this blog I’ve continued to work on my little spirit and gone through massive uplevels (as ya do 🙃) and I discovered something SHOCKING lately. I am an energetic vampire and you probably are too 🙀 because HEALERS ARE ENERGETIC VAMPIRES TOO! I know, shocking right? And you probably don’t believe me so let me explain. I love hugs. And cuddles . And if you’ve watched any of my VIDEOS you’ll see im a bubbly happy little soul who’s passionate about helping people make their lives better. But what I realised lately is that it can actually be quite invasive to take cuddles and hugs from people. I’m a very touchy touchy feely feely person when im in love but my new love isn’t that way inclined. We were holding hands when I sensed he wanted to turn away. Now previously I would have saw this as a rejection but becuase I have healed the abandonment wound (nearly everyone has it, especially if your parents split up) I knew it wasn’t him energetically pushing me away, he just didn’t feel comfortable any more. Now in the passed I would have snuggled in to his back but I had a massive AHA moment. I realised I was acting like an energetic vampire! Becuase cuddling into him, makes me feel good. It makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside and I get a nice calm feeling that makes me feel peaceful as all those lovely endorphins are released. But actually what I was doing was trying to take more then he was willing to give which 💯is being an energetic vampire. So know when he pulls away, I accept that he isn’t rejecting me, he just feels uncomfortable and he’s protecting his own energy and his own heart. Yes it makes me sad a little, so I tell him ‘I love cuddling in to you and it makes me feel sad when you turn away (becuase expressing how you FEEL is important for builiding a solid relationship) but I also always tell him ‘I will never take more then you are willing to give’ becuase damnding he give me more then he can is not an equal relationship. That’s you not fulfilling your own needs and demanding someone else becomes responsible for fulfilling your own happiness, and thats not ok becuase if you don’t know how to make yourself happy, how can someone else?
(and I’ll talk about this at a later date. Self love is a huge subject and im still learning, but I promise I’ll tell you more when I figure it all out 😘)